How Do I Find Myself Again After Feeling Lost and Disconnected from Who I Am?

Your drifts will make you forget yourself - and in that forgetting, you will remember who you truly are.

A Story of Rediscovery

Let me tell you about Sarah, a marketing manager who felt completely lost after her divorce.

For months, she felt depressed and lost. Her work felt meaningless. Food had no taste. Even her favorite shows or her friends did not feel joyful anymore.

Then one Saturday morning, she found herself in her garage, staring at an old easel covered in dust. She hadn't painted in fifteen years - not since college when she'd spend hours lost in colors and brushes.

Something within her stirred. She rolled an old sheet of drawing paper, grabbed her old colors, some brushes, and went into the nearby park.

Almost without thinking, she put some paint onto a palette. Three hours later, she looked up, startled. She had completely forgotten where she was, what time it was, even who she was supposed to be. She forgot all about her divorce and the fears of loneliness.

When she came back to herself, she felt complete, whole and fulfilled.

That moment of forgetting became her path back to herself.

The Essential Nature of Your Drifts

Here's something most people don't understand about healing: your hobbies and passions aren't luxuries you can postpone until you "feel better."

They are the medicine itself. They are how you feel better.

When Sarah picked up that paintbrush, she wasn't just creating art. She was reconnecting with the person she was before life taught her to be someone else. Before relationships, job pressures, and expectations covered her true self like layers of earth over a hidden gem.

Your drifts - those things that are calling to you - are not selfish indulgences. They are invitations leading you back home to yourself.

Think about it this way: when you're completely absorbed in something you love, what happens? Your mind goes quiet. Your anxious thoughts fade away. Your worry disappears.


The voice that constantly judges and criticizes goes silent.

In those moments, you touch something deeper than your pain. You remember the person who existed before you got hurt, before you got lost, before you forgot who you were underneath all the noise.

This is why pursuing your passions isn't optional in healing. It's how you rebuild your identity from the inside out, one moment of joy at a time.

Your Active Path Forward

Start Small, Start Now

Set your alarm 30 minutes earlier tomorrow. Before you check your phone or think about your day, spend those 30 minutes on something that calls to you. Reading, sketching, writing, gardening - whatever makes you feel alive.

Follow Your Forgetfulness

Pay attention to what makes you lose track of time. This is your inner compass pointing toward your true self. Even if it seems silly or impractical, honor it. Your soul is trying to show you the way home.

Create Without Purpose

Don't worry about being good at it or making money from it. Just do it for the pure joy of doing it. Let yourself be a beginner again. Let yourself play.

Your healing doesn't happen in therapy sessions alone or through reading self-help books. It happens in those quiet morning moments when you're doing what you love, when you remember that beneath all the pain and confusion, you are still whole.

Your drifts are calling you back to yourself. Listen to them.