Why Most Relationships Don’t Work

The one who listens, loses themselves, but finds the world.

The other day, I was at my son's Karate school, and saw a couple talking in the lobby.

The man was describing something with a lot of energy, with his hands moving, but his partner was staring at the wall.

Her vision was locked on a spot, and her mind was completely absent.

I waited for the man to realize that she's not there.

He spoke for another 3 minutes.

I waited for my son to come back, watching both of them.

Not once did he realize she wasn't there, not once did she ever come back to the conversation.


And it appeared to me, that neither of them found anything strange about their interaction.

And it struck me: this is how most of us experience each other.

Half-present. Half-distracted. Not truly listening.

Why We Keep Missing Each Other

There’s only one real reason most relationships don’t work:
We’re not truly listening to each other.

• We hear the words, but not the emotional state beneath them.

• We react to the tone, but not to the wound it’s carrying.

• We respond through the filter of past pain, not present truth.

So we end up arguing about something that was never even said.

And the more we defend, the more distant we become.

What Listening Actually Means

True listening is not waiting for your turn to speak.

Because when you wait to speak, your past speaks.

When you speak from stillness, your present speaks.

The more intensely you listen, the more the past dissolves.

And when the past no longer clouds your perception, a new future begins, rooted in awareness, not in Ego.

The Healing Power of Presence

To be listened to is to be seen—without judgment.

Seen exactly as you are.

That’s why deep listening doesn’t just help the one who’s speaking.

It transforms the one who listens. 

• Listening creates presence.

• Listening dissolves the past.

• Listening awakens Intuition.

• Listening brings deep fulfillment.

It creates a space in which something timeless moves.

The one who listens, loses themselves, and finds the world.